New year's Resolution - 2013

Some of my friends asked me for a party tonight... They wanna enjoy new year with fun... but then I asked myself, will this be a really HAPPY new year? How about that victim's family? will they get their daughter, sister, friend back? then how come it's happy for them? I m so much sad and shameful on myself as well as our system and country that i told my frnds, "No guys, you carry on.. i can't come for party not even for movie..." It's SAD for whole country then how come it be Happy New Year?  

Yes, I am talking about that 23-year old girl's gang rape case.
 
I am not wishing Happy New Year to anybody, I am just praying that what was happened in 2012 (That Shame and Sadness) should not be repeated in any percentage at any cost in 2013.

Request to all Parents, specially fathers that please guide your son to respect woman by respecting woman. It's not child's fault, child will repeat the same when he become adult, what he saw in his childhood.

Teach your son that females are not weak; they are sensitive, they are sweet, they are adorable to make you complete...

Teach your son that if every female has some part of saraswati (Patience & calmness) then the same female also has some part of DURGA, KAALI (Justice). Don't force them to hate all manhood.

I don't know why people celebrate the male child birth, if they can't give him proper education, proper environment and so called SANSKAAR... If parents fail in this, then the same boy will become rapist one day.

Don't take the examination of her anger, otherwise the day is not far when we see MALE foeticide :(

She is a mother, sister, wife, daughter, friend; I still remember when I was weak in any situation that time my mother helped me, my sister listened me, my female friends gave me a good and righteous advice.

Men are always be incomplete without women and vice versa. Please contribute to maintain this dignity by educating your son.

I repeat, child will repeat the same when he become adult, what he saw in his childhood.

Respect women and let your son learn same from you. Father is the superhero for SON. Don't create a bad image of super hero; otherwise he can't differentiate between the deeds of villain and Hero.

This should be your new year's resolution. May we all live in Healthy India (from all perspectives), and healthy world in coming years

Jai Hind
Aameen

-- Sumeet Singh

21st Dec, 2012

This date needs no introduction. People with a zest for life, are of the opinion that nothing will happen on this date and that we all will see the sunrise on Dec 22, 2012, Santa will again bring awesome gifts for us, we will once again rock on new year's eve and, we will surely be proud spectators to the commencement of 2013.

No doubt people are so optimistic and they have to be, as my motive is always to spread positive energy. But there is nothing wrong if I say that they are somehow, somewhere worried about their dear ones. Parents worry about their children, lovers worry about their beloved ones, and friends worry about their best pals. Where there is affection, there will be care; and where there is care, there will be a fear of losing a dear one.  

Future is unpredictable and it will always be. Don’t worry about what will happen on this date or any other damn date. I don’t like people who say in their late years, “I would be someone else if this had happened, I would spend my rest of life with this person if something had happened, I would do something else if that had happened”. I don’t like 'if's'. Do whatever you want to do right now, live how you want to live right now so that you never have to say “If”.

We are fortunate to know our date of birth, but nobody is aware of his date of death. Don’t worry about that date and don’t even dare to calculate it by any means. Just try to appreciate the presence of your loved ones in your life, respect their care towards you and do reciprocate, teach generations how to live life and set examples for them to teach this to  their generations.

Stop worrying from the depth of your heart; live like this is the only week left in your life. Give sometime to your near and dear ones and try to make them realize how much you are thankful to them for making you an essential part of their lives. Enjoy each and every moment and live life to the fullest.

We are not sure what will happen on Dec 21, 2012 but what we can do is, to live at least this week on our own principles. Spread as much happiness as you can, as this is the last chance. So stop being a culprit and never ever say “If”. 

There will be no fun to live a long but boring life... It is better if you can live a life with whoever and however you want; doesn't matter how short it will be...

So don't panic and don't fear predictions, rumours, or various speculations. Just love your love and I am sure that your love will also love you back.

--

Sumeet Singh 

What is Right and What is Wrong?

Some of my near and dear ones always asking me some of the related questions about their situations and deeds... I always try to give a best answer and try to overwhelm them with my opinions.... 

Let me jot down some of the thoughts related to this topic.....

In our childhood, when we don't have much understanding on materialistic and non-materialistic things at that time our brain was so questionable.... 

We used to ask questions to our teachers, parents, seniors, siblings, cousins on various topics and try to understand the gist. 

We made up our mind with whatsoever information is available from our surroundings. We believe on them and hence we believe on their thoughts.... and in results, we stop asking questions, We stop arguing on topics because we believe on their thoughts, or rather I should say their myths, so blindly that we don't even want to understand the corner cases or may be the major cases in current scenarios.

But if you try to think a little bit on the whole scenario, then you may understand that these things are relative terms. 

As is understood, some of the things are right in particular geographical region, custom, area, or tribe and the same would be wrong in others and vice versa.

The particular society has decided on their past experiences that what is right and what is wrong and hence it has been delivered to us. 

The society took decisions on basis of past experiences and sample rates and hence formed strict, rigid and static statements.

As far as i understood, nothing can be right in each scenario and nothing can be wrong. I repeat, it's again a relative terms and hence it's very difficult to make a definition for right and wrong. 

According to me, the activity or an object whose intake or in contact wouldn't affect my health in bad conditions as well as my mental or emotional state in bad condition then it's RIGHT or GOOD thing else it's bad.

Again you may change your decision on age basis or experience basis but you can't define a static statements for your upcoming generations. 

And for god sake, religion has nothing to do with RIGHT or WRONG it's totally related to your physical health and your emotional/mental state…

It's your life and you are quite matured enough to take decision on above mentioned two critical points. Don't bound yourself; try the different aspects of nature

I don't want to take a particular example for this topic as it might become so controversial and I hate controversies. So hope you got my point and may be try to think once on these basis, 

as i already said in my other blog that CHANGE is the only constant; hence we also require change in our perspective.

Believe me it's totally a game of perspectives, just change your perspective and may be one new world is waiting for you for your welcome.

In a nutshell: If your act and deed doesn't affect you as well as others health and doesn't affect your as well as others mental state then it's always right otherwise undoubtedly wrong. 

P.S

If you have any particular question or special case to discuss more on this then please feel free to comment on this blog and I will try to reply ASAP as best as my knowledge.

--
Sumeet Singh

Stop Blaming!!!

I surprise, when folks says, "I'm not happy with my life..... Somebody has ruined my life.... Things are not working according to me..... It could be better...."

When we were in our schools, we would like to be in college: wanted to wear casual dresses rather than to wear uniforms.....

When we were in college or University, we would like to be in some reputed company or wanted to be a successful professional.....

Now when we are in our professions, we miss our schools - that uniforms, college - that gossiping with our best pals, roaming around.....

We are one of the best and lovable children of GOD.... We have parents, friends, beloved ones... we are not handicapped, we are not starving.....

Believe it or not, but wherever we are today, we are solely responsible for our present: We had an opportunity to be what we wanted to be....

We are availing most of the amenities of best life... but how about the ppl, who are fighting for there basic rights: water, food, shelter and love.....

Think about the ppl, who merely wants to live like a simple life but they are helpless.....

Have you ever imagine that the life what we are living now, most of the ppl mere dream about this..... for them , this would be a dream come true...

Now for god sake, please stop blaming life and fate....

Always try to be happy with each and every condition....

And most important thing, Always welcome CHANGE with a broad smile on your face :) CHANGE is the only CONSTANT thing in this universe....

CHANGE can be related to your professional or personal stuff, with your emotions etc....

Believe me it's good..... Always be happy and try the generations to become happy.....

Life is very short, and we all need to smile a lot.... so don't loose even a second, always smile....

Do u all agree with this??????

There is a quote: Woods are lovely, dark and deep... but i have promises to keep... and miles to go before i sleep, and miles to go before i sleep.....

-- Sumeet Singh

Why were we born?

Most of the time, most of us think that what’s the reason behind our existence? If we have to study, doing work, nourishing our children then how it’s different from others? Or we all have the same reasons for our existence?

As most of us know that destination is already decided then what’s the role of deeds? Why we have to struggle for a better life? 

Let me correlate the same with a Train journey – A journey of your lifetime. Let the train starts from Amritsar to Delhi. Now assume that you are the very first person to aboard the train @ Amritsar. Some people join after you of different ages. Remember that the train won’t start if you are the only person to travel. It takes some couple of people to begin the journey as the trains’ driver knows that some more people will also join in between. 

Some people leave you @ Jalandhar, Ludhiana or somewhere else in between the journey, and people join you @ Jalandhar, Ludhiana or somewhere in between the journey. Each person’s destination has already decided and there may be a chance that they need to catch some other trains for some other journey. 

As most of my readers already got the point that what I want to convey, but for others let me elaborate…..

This train journey, as mentioned above, is like the journey of your life. When you are born, you got many relations like mother, father, siblings, relatives etc.., by default, to make your journey more pleasant. This is like that you are going to aboard at Amritsar, where your life/train starts, and your by default relations/folks join you afterward on the same station.

Some of your near ones die in front of your eyes; it’s just like that some of your co-passengers are leaving train at different stations and some will take birth, your children, in front of your eyes or will join you as your friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquaintance etc. like the passengers join you in a train on upcoming stations.

Some may live for some more years with you, or you can say that their stoppage is on next station and some lives along you till Delhi/destination and may be after that to continue the journey for their destinations.

Now the question is, if everything is already decided then what’s the reason of our birth? Why we were born?

In this train journey, we learn many things from the people who are going to depart on some upcoming stations. After getting learning, we need to decide what’s useful in that and what you want to share with upcoming folks e.g. your children, your spouse etc.

You may talk with new passengers in your train, you may want to educate them, spread awareness and want to discuss with them.

So it doesn’t matter that the destination has already decided or not, what matters is what you did in your journey to destination?

When we were sapling, at that time our Gardner nurture us by providing right soil, right minerals, right water and adequate sunlight. After becoming a tree, it’s our duty to give back to society as a fruits, flowers, shade, oxygen etc. The Gardener may or may not be alive to eat our fruits, smell our flowers, rest in our shade; but he has done his work for the society, he gave the biggest gift to society.

So like a Gardener, it’s our duty to nurture a sapling and give society a healthy TREE so that the upcoming generation can live a better world and can even create a better TREE or environment.

That’s should be the only motive of your life, rest all will happen accordingly.

So now it’s up to you to sleep in whole train journey or nurturing a sapling.

Hope you got that why you were born?

--

Sumeet Singh